This late evening a good friend of mine sent me this beautiful email about how women as so special and how we are care givers and ...
it had all of these beautiful nature pictures of flowers and rainbows and Angels and well....you get the idea. Though the email was sweet and nice I wrote back saying:
Thank you _______, but there was a time when I thought these kind of emails were all nice and sweet and made me go "awhhhh, and get all mushy but now, when receiving an email like this from a man, I think to myself, this guy is living in dream land, somebody needs to wake him up. Besides, don't you have something better to do? That took way to long to compose.
Board? Or just lonely?
Well, heres his reply and what a good one it was:
There is something you need to know about men. They are loners. Being in a relationship is unnatural to them. They do not automatically think about how their actions affect someone else. The default emotional state of a man is loneliness.
This is not true of women. A woman has an innate sense of relationship, of connection to others. A woman naturally shares of herself and bonds with others. A man does not. She is a relationship being, he is a lonely being.
Of course, it is a big generalisation to say that all men are loners and all women are connectors, and generalisations are never accurate. But to say generalisations are never accurate is itself a generalisation, and thus not accurate either. So let's generalise: while there are of course many exceptions, generally speaking, man's natural state is to be single, woman's natural state is to be in a couple.
There is a solid base for this theory. It stretches all the way back to the beginning of time, to the first man and the first woman, Adam and Eve.
Adam was created alone. His original state was that of a bachelor. But Eve was created from Adam. She was never single. Eve by her very nature was a relationship being, because she was created with her partner next to her. She had an inborn sense of interconnectedness, she intuitively knew that we are not alone in this world, that our actions impact others and that we can and must be sensitive to those around us. This was innate to her psyche, for she was never alone. But all this was new to Adam. He had to learn what a relationship means, and how to be aware of another, for at his core he was a lonely being.
Adam is the essential man, and Eve the essential woman. And so until today women are relationship beings and men are lonely beings. Not that all women are good at relationships, and not that all men are hopeless hermits. Rather, women are more likely to know how to bond with others, and men are more likely to keep their emotions to themselves. Eve's mission was to help Adam come out of his isolation and learn how to connect.
So then, would you like to have a "Cauwfee Tawk"
So true and what a great reply......no?
Good friends are hard to come by.
He's one of a kind for sure.